教养 is our responsilibity to our child, but which is more important? That is 教. I personally feel that I'm not a good mother as I do not practice it, I feel shame when I saw kaitlyn behave naughty. I should teach her moral and discipline before any others things since she was small. Without good discipline as a foundation, how smart a child is would be futile. I admit that I pampered her too much until she lost her independency. I'm not acting what a parent should act, I listen to her instead of she listen to me.. haha.. funny right? and her jealousy is so strong that she minds on every single things like how many time we had praise to her and to her sister... we smile or care to other children. That behaviour really worry me. I do not want my girl to be spoilt, since she is still small, so I've to tune her back to what a good girl suppose to be.